It should have taken 20 minutes, but instead I sat in traffic for an hour and a half, I spilled tea in my lap, and I had a headache. Immediately, frustration bubbled up in me and I said, “Grrr, I’m having such a BAD day!” Why????
Why is it rational thought encourages us to label everything, to justify experiences, to identify feelings, and define our world as “good” or “bad”? Rational thought is a great gift, but it sometimes gets in the way.
The ego steps in to say, “this is hard work, it’s a big challenge, so to help you feel better, let’s call it bad”. (or maybe even use more expletive words)
What qualifies as a bad day…or a good day? Does it change over time as new labels are affixed to experiences? Can experiences be relabeled? Why is it easier to label the bad before the good? Why do we need labels?
Perhaps, instead of creating labels for the challenges, the hard work, the setbacks, the traumas, they could just be there…all just part of LIFE.
Would I really be loved less if people around me didn’t hear me complaining, if I told of my day without defining it? Is the outcome truly different if I call a situation good or bad? Or, can I simply move through the experience and see these challenges as adding to who I am, but not defining me or causing that roller-coaster of emotions.
The tea in my lap dried up. Deep breaths alleviated my headache. I arrived in time and my day went on.
I think I will work on not having so many good days or bad days, but just having more days.
November 25, 2013 at 6:11 pm
Yep, everyday is a good day!